Gulf Fritillary Caterpillars have short bristley spines, not long soft hairs.
Notched Oleander leaves
Adult Polka Dot Moth
Adult Oleander Moth
Like Monarch caterpillars, Oleander Moth caterpillars (larvae) often notch the leaves of milkweed before eating these leaves.
Monarch and Queen caterpillars 'dance' to loud music or noises. They jerk their heads with each beat. Oleander Moth caterpillars do the same; they jerk their heads to loud noises.
Yellow milkweed aphids are known for massing on milkweed. These aphids also congregrate on Oleander plants.